I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve asked my partner to do this. You likely feel the same about your roommate, partner, parent, or someone close to you. Maybe it’s a different task but other people’s behaviors can drive us NUTS.
I’ll let you in on a little secret… people can continue to be themselves and you don't have to worry about being triggered. Here’s how:
Give them the benefit of the doubt
My favorite go-to thought about other people, and please feel free to use it: “Everyone is doing the best they can with what they know and have.” I truly believe this and it helps me instantly find compassion for others.
Ease tension with truth
“I love taking out the trash!” - said no one ever. So, you can’t blame them for not obeying your request at the snap of a finger. Try a different thought that is true: “I have an amazing partner who just doesn’t like house work.” Poof, tension gone.
Take responsibility for your own wants and needs
This is about shifting your attention inward. Think about why you want this person to behave differently. How can you use that energy on yourself to satisfy your own needs? If you want the dishes done, start scrubbing!
You don't need people to change for you to feel better. You have everything you need within YOU to create the results you want.
Your partner in success,